College-gen

Dear Alisa and Gina,

My daughter was recently interviewed for admission to a college she really wants to attend. At the interview, the woman who was asking the questions (she’s an alum of this college) made stereotypical comments putting down women -– implying they have fixed roles, are the weaker sex. (This was especially odd to me because this college used to be an all-women’s school.) These comments offended my daughter and made her uncomfortable, but she didn’t want to endanger her chances by letting the interviewer know this. She became verbally withdrawn while talking to this woman and now is worried that she won’t get into this school because the interview did not go well. Should I call the college and let them know what happened, or let it slide? ~ Concerned Mom

I think this is a great opportunity for your daughter to speak up. She should consult with the college or guidance counselor at her high school and explain what went on. The admissions department of the college might not be aware of exactly what is happening at interviews conducted by this woman. Let the guidance counselor provide some guidance. Even if there’s nothing to be done, I think it’s a chance to get the point of view from someone who is more in the business. ~ Alisa

I agree with Alisa about consulting the guidance counselor. And I also think this is a great time for some motherly advice. Tell your daughter that throughout her life she will run into people who have the power to affect her future, but who are also, let’s say, not really qualified to do so. No matter what the outcome is in this situation, let your daughter know that she should be herself at every interview. Go into them with enthusiasm and excitement, and let the chips fall where they may. ~ Gina