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Dear Alisa and Gina,

Sometimes when I’m with a group of close women friends the subject of sex comes up. I’m not the kiss and tell type. I consider my sex life private and don’t want to discuss it with my friends. However, several of them openly discuss all sorts of things, from frequency to experiences. Uggh. I like my friends but I don’t like it when the conversation ventures in that direction. They call me a prude because I don’t participate. Should I say something when this happens, or just wait for the conversation to veer elsewhere? – Privately Prudish

Excuse yourself, then leave for a few minutes. Come back flushed and disheveled. This will either give them something new to talk about, or silence the whole lot. ~ Gina

I guess it depends on how uncomfortable this makes you — do you mind listening? Do you just feel uncomfortable contributing? How often do you get caught in this discussion? Speak up for yourself. Tell them your limits and be clear (and not angry, whiny, spiteful or judgmental) about your expectations for future conversations. And then be willing to stick to what you said. ~ Alisa