Working it Out

Dear Alisa and Gina,

I have a friend who’s been out of work for several months. She used to have lots of ideas and energy but lately she’s been getting pretty down about her lack of income. I’ve been really supportive but I’m running out things to say to her. And sometimes I almost feel like she’s mad at me because I work and she doesn’t. Should I say something? ~ Friend in Need

Good friends are often asked to listen and support when others no longer do. Your friend may just need to vent. But you don’t know that if you don’t ask her. I suggest asking her how you can help the next time she brings up the topic. Depending on her answer you can then say something about how you feel helpless or that you think she’s mad at you. You may be surprised by what you find out. ~ Alisa

My mother always said, “Misery loves company.” Hey, It’s not your fault that you’re working. (Well, actually it is. But it’s a good thing.) If your friend isn’t happy for your well-being, then she’s not a really good friend. But, your question is what to do. Well, I’d offer her the names of a few good temp agencies. If she gets a job doing something, anything, she’ll start to feel better about herself, and maybe start being a better friend again. ~ Gina