...Who Needs Enemies?

Dear Alisa and Gina,

I lost touch with a friend from college about two years ago, soon after she visited for a weekend with my husband and me. While in our home she made rude comments to both of us regarding our recent wedding among other topics. In addition, she showed us both her ‘new’ photo album, which contained ‘old’ pictures of me and a former significant other, which made me feel very uncomfortable in front of my husband. Oddly enough, she didn’t see anything wrong with that. After she left our home, she called a few times but I was still so upset with her, I never called back. She recently left a message for me saying ‘if I wanted to talk to her, please call her back.’ I feel that maybe we’ve grown apart and can no longer be friends, but part of me feels guilty for not giving our friendship another try.  Should I say something? ~ Friend or Foe

If the only reason you're thinking about calling her back is guilt, I think you should dig a little deeper and try to explore how you really feel. If you're still hurt or angry, and you want to clear the air, maybe calling her back would be a chance to do that. But I'd suggest you do some planning about what you need to let her know for instance, what hurt you, why you still want to be friends. If all you find is guilt and wanting to be a good girl, then move on. ~ Alisa

I think they made a movie about your friend. It was called “Clueless.” Listen to Alisa – those are words from the wise.~ Gina