Blackberry Blues

Dear Alisa and Gina,

I recently went on a date with a very nice woman. We were having a good time before dinner, but during the meal (between courses) she took out her Blackberry and was answering e-mail messages, etc. She told me that she had an important work situation that she had to deal with, but that she didn’t want to cancel our date, so she just had to take care of this. But I was annoyed. Should I have said something? What if it happens again? ~ Blackberry Blues

When you meet someone new you have a great chance to start fresh. Part of that chance includes voicing things that are important to you. You may be concerned that she won’t want to see you again, but do you want to start getting involved with someone who acts this way? So, I think you need to bring this situation up, as you make your plans for a next get together. You don’t have to make it a heavy conversation, but it’s important to express how annoying you find her cyber interruptions. Take a deep breath and speak from your heart. ~ Alisa

 Ok, here's what to do. When she’s on the Blackberry, pick up your cell phone. Pretend to call someone. Have a very exaggerated conversation with a pretend friend. Say, loud enough for her to hear, “Hey I’m on this date with this really sexy woman. But she keeps getting on her Blackberry. What do you think I should do?” Pretend to be listening very intently to the answer. If that doesn’t get her off the thing, throw olives at her. That should get her attention. ~ Gina