Help Wanted

Dear Alisa and Gina,

I am looking for a job – and I am struggling about asking one friend in particular for an introduction to his company. Our relationship has largely been social and though we talk about work, there has never been any deep interest in what I do precisely and what I’m looking for. Now that I’ve been let go, I feel a greater sense of urgency. I’m a little annoyed he’s never offered, since he’s known about my situation practically the whole time I have. How do I ask for help – or should I even try? - Searching for a Situation

It’s hard when dear friends and family can’t read our minds and offer the help we dream of. But that’s sort of a fairy tale. I suggest that you get very specific about what you are looking for, do some research about who might be able to make an introduction for you, and then go talk with everyone you know. It’s unlikely that the first person will be able to make one introduction that will be perfect, but you may just be surprised at the number of interesting people you will meet. ~ Alisa

 I agree with Alisa. How about a simple e-mail that says, “Are there any openings for positions in your company that you think would be right for me. Or, can you suggest someone in your company, or elsewhere, to whom I can speak or send a résumé?” Simple, direct, and the worst thing he can say is no. But, I bet he’ll come up with a few suggestions anyway.~ Gina