A Touchy Situation

Dear Alisa and Gina,

I hate it when people stand too close to me when we talk. It makes me feel really uncomfortable. I also don’t like it when people touch me on the arm or shoulder when we’re having a conversation. When this happens, should I say something? ~Too Close for Comfort

Sit down. Sitting down positions your body differently so people are not in your face – and should help with the “too close” and “touching” issues. And saying, “Let’s go sit down,” is probably easier to say than “I don’t like it when you stand too close to me.” ~ Gina

Everyone has their own comfort zone – and it can change with each individual interaction. And there are two sides to the question; being able to read the comfort of another person and also being attuned to our own needs. We can impact the energy field around us by our attention and by subtle shifts in how we hold our bodies. Next time you find your space invaded, try experimenting with changing the orientation of your body: give the person your side rather than a full front approach to you, stand with your palms turned away from the person. Place one foot in front of the other as if you were going to walk into them. See what works. Besides finding a place of greater comfort – you may also find the experimentation provides a well-needed release from your discomfort. ~ Alisa